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That Ever Present Inner Voice

March 18, 2002

Following my inner voice used to be easier but things are starting to heat up between us.  And while I don’t doubt for a moment the truthfulness of what it’s telling me or the notion that the harder it is for me to do what I know I should, the more important it is for me to do just that, I’m still more than a little put off.  And following my bliss, that’s getting trickier too.  Not so much for feeling indulgent but because the price of following my bliss will be paid, in part, with tears.  There will be joy and sacrifice.  And so the cycle will continue.  The cycle of growth.  And ultimately, the gentle irony of letting go of  what listening to that inner voice got me, will come to pass.  Never has this been more true than with my house.  My home. 

Eight years ago or so, when I got the call from a relative of that the old house, I’d known as a child, was going on the market and my help as a Realtor was needed, I knew right away I would be the new owner.  Even before I came to it again and saw the wear of many unkind years I remembered the look of the light through the windows and the memory of Sunday afternoons in summer here in this bungalow.  And, when people came to look at it and wondered out loud, and sometimes with sincere fright, why I would want to do so much work.  How would I manage it all?  What had gotten into me?   It was my inner voice that gave me told me there really was no choice in it.  “Dive in,” it said. 

And dive I did, and, in no place with more purpose than in the dining room.  I just had to. Because my inner voice said so and she wouldn’t can it until the work began.  White paint covering the wood built-ins hutches, flanking the door to the kitchen, and the three sided bay window whose leaded glass sun let the real thing through to caste rainbow circles all over the place and box beams against the 9’ ceiling and fancy wainscot skirting below had chipped with each bump.  Yellowed a little every year for many years.  Twenty-five maybe.  There was no lightness there.  It was heavy and sad because it was beautiful underneath it’s own history.

So first with a heat gun the thick layer of paint melted away and fell to the floor in warm curled up pieces.  Throughout that summer the heat gun hummed and the paint fell away a small section at at time.  It was fun but too much of any one kind of fun is, well, less fun.  By fall though most of the white was now a sticky looking brown. 

Soon all the white was gone and the wood could breath but it was still sickly and sad.  About this time, I wasn’t very pleased with my inner voice.  It seemed to have lead me down a path that was too long.  However alluring the promise of completion, the reality of the work required things of me I wasn’t sure I had enough of.  Namely patience.  Several months into the process working several nights a week with nobody in their right or wrong mind willing to help save a boyfriend who had come and gone and really only helped because what else could he do without looking like the worst boyfriend I’d ever had.  And my mother who probably would have been at my brother or sister’s house (poking fun at my wild ideas and foolishness) had I had any.  But being her one and only meant she had one and only place to go to get that mother love fix that comes when a momma is with her baby.  She came like a trooper after declaring (quite seriously and very uncharacteristically as she is almost always the epitomy of supportive) that I could take on such a mammoth undertaking “over her dead body.”   She came in the evenings and side by side we worked and I wonder now what on earth her inner voice was telling her all that while. 

 By spring, opening the windows was not only pleasant, it helped keep the toxic fumes of chemical stripper from completely overtaking our lungs and corrupting any hope of level headedness.  And the work continued.  Like the utensils and cookware of any good cook: ladders for climbing, dental tools for picking out specs of paint that hadn’t gotten the message, steel wool and paint coated thick gloves which couldn’t totally prevent the sting of stripper on skin, lay spread over the room.  A giant recipe being made on the walls and  me, mom, my inner voice and my dining room, yet to be dined in, but not through after eight months together.

Maybe I wasn’t as impatient as I’d thought.  How could I be?  A really impatient person would have burned the house down.  And maybe it was around this time I started to bargain with my inner voice.  I started to make earnest deals that included never having to leave this house for the rest of my life.  I remedy my  pain by proposing that I be allowed to stay there to guard the grains of wood.  After all, why else would I be doing something so crazy.  Surely this meant forever.  And believing in forever spurned me on  and the feeling of being a complete freak of renovating nature subsided.

And then summer was here again and the days got long and the task seemed to have and end that I could see.  And at night as the sun set and the music played there was a spring in my step.  A sense of goodness.  More than the cold beer I sipped while stepping back to admire real progress or the fantasy (one day to be reality) of folks coming from far and wide to admire good work while I smiled with humble confidence in a job done well.  It was just a sense of goodness in that time and place and I thanked my inner voice because it seemed so wise to me.

By fall the first coats of stain began to tell the story of beauty restored and it was marvelous to watch.  And then a second coat all the way around.  And then on Thanksgiving day, more that a year after the task at hand had begun, the last lick of varythane went on and when mom came through the door and saw the table set and the warm glow of the wood all around the room, she cried those proud motherly tears and it was good.  Thanksgiving it was. 

There are more stories of this house.  Of painting it and patching it and watching it for clues of how to make it better and of the yard that still calls to me for love and time and money wanting to be given a make-over too like the house it holds. 

But inside I hear of other plans now.   I hear it when I think of my bliss and where it would have me next.  It is not found in this house anymore.  It tells me it’s time to go even when it knows that this isn’t what I bargained for.  I thought I was going to get to stay because I’d done the work.  The house that scared some people was admired and in it’s glow, I shined.  I thought I had earned my permanent place here.  Instead, what I found constant was the courage to do more listening.  Maybe I could live without that kind of courage I think to myself.  But what sort of life would that be for me?  Where would I be today if this was how I’d chosen to make choices.  Fearfully.  Tentatively and in accordance with the well meaning expectations of others. 

Well, maybe the voice I heard back then has been in some random accident and is laying somewhere warm and safe but unable to move trying to crawl back to tell me that the voice I’m hearing now is not the authentic one and will ruin all promise of a real future if I listen to it’s crazy talk. I wish. 

I wish because following my bliss is risky business and I think I thought I only had to feel real risk while I was younger, less experienced and with nothing but a ’77 Green Mustang and a set of used silverware to loose.  The stakes are higher all the way around but it’s the same game.  More to gain and  more to lose but really only one way to play.  The philosophy that got me into this great big gorgeous house is about to get me out and not many people, least of all me on some days, thinks it’s a swell idea.  But then, they seldom do. 

That’s just it.  Right now I’m listening but not agreeing and I don’t have to, yet.  I’m following my bliss but I’m certainly scared to pieces.  I’m certain that I need to move forward but sure it will be sad looking back.

And my house.  My home.  What about us after all?  We love each other.  I’ve loved it and it’s loved me back.  I took care of it and now it’s taking care of me back.  It will give me everything I need to the my new chapter of my life.  It’s setting me free.  I haven’t left yet.  I’m still listening.  Some days I ask questions and wait for answers. Yesterday it came on TV with a guy on OPB who said, as I turned up the volume, “Follow your bliss.” 

I know I’ll know when it’s time.  Just like I knew I had to own this house and work on that dining room.  I suspect what I’ll come to experience too is the feeling that “wherever you go, there you are.”  I may not be in my house as my new life unfolds but it will surely be in me.   Just like that ever present inner voice.  My wisdom.  My burden.  My friend.

 

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The 22nd day of February, 2010

One day during the last year of the first decade of the century I rushed around the house happy and energetic waiting for my friend Julee to pull up to the house for some quality time. Suddenly I need to find some lipstick. I headed out the door to look in the car. It had rained a little bit and the stairs were wet. as I romped down the first two steps my legs and feet sprawled out from under me and I fell straight backward and heard a stout crack where my back hit the staircase. I happened to have a phone in my hand and I promptly called 911, for myself. Four or five medical men found me on my bed, groaning in a genuinely painful state. They did not seem worried about me at all. They were cute I thought. They assured me I’d be okay. The next day at the Doctor’s office they determined that I had fractured my seventh vertebra and they set me up to have a clever kind of injection to cement the bones back together.  It really hurt for several weeks.  Pain is rough. Physical pain, hurts.  Still, if I had to make a choice I might resolve to endure physical pain rather than experience the inevitable pain of emotional heartbreak, fear and loss.

Losing love hurts, makes my face hurt makes my stomach hurt. These sudden waves of sadness reminding me the consequences of unrequited expectations helps itself articulate in the bottom of your heart. Shit. The highs and lows and what do you do? Today I snuggle in bed with the dogs, watching the Olympics trying to feel better. Things take Time said Nurse Emily during the nights in the hospital, that was so long ago.

Opening up the house with the doors and a window open makes a HUGE difference in my sense of breathing. It’s going to be time to start working in the yard. I am saving money, and yet, I feel broke. Then I’m helpfully reminded in my vision recorder (or Brain in old time language).

I’m dilly dallying around reading stuff I wrote and trying to learn what the computer grammar king means by “Fragmented Sentence”

Hooray!

it is just about time to practice yoga, wish me luck,

Today is the 22nd day of February in the year 2010. It is almost 9am. I wonder what today is going to be like. I wonder if I can get some shit done. put clothes away, yoga, guitar, walk, bank, cards, smiles.

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Maybe This Will Be A Way

Having heard that my Doctor’s would like me to have a second transplant (assuming they can find a donor) I picked up a book given to me years ago by Shelly.  In addition to asking me to walk, unadulterated, every day for twenty minutes, it asks me to answer the following questions everyday. Today:

1. What’s happening with my body? My skin is peeling off. It feels like I’m sunburned. I can’t hear well out of my left ear. My skin is itchy. I feel fatigue. I put Vaseline all over my body including my face. I have no sense of smell or taste. I’m thirsty. I have not thrown up or had loose stool today.

2. How am I feeling emotionally? Sad. Scared. Happy. Lucky.

3. When I let my thoughts wander, what do I find myself thinking about? My last relationship with a man. The last three years and the fact that it isn’t over. The future and whether or not I will live as long as my dogs. What if I die and my mom has to live the rest of her life without me? Why can’t I die later when I’m ready? Maybe I will. What is the difference between denial and faith? How do I live these days? My past and what I did and did not accomplish.

4. Who did I connect with today? It is 4:07pm in the afternoon on Thursday. Thorne Ann hugged me for a long time. I cried. I called Gia and she picked up the phone to talk, I cried. I talked to Dave and we’re having lunch tomorrow and we talked for a minute and, I cried. I don’t think I really want to talk too much about this whole thing. Hence the blog. Maybe this will be a way for me to stay connected to the wonderful world of people I’ve come to know.

5. What gave me a sense of peace? Writing these answers and reading the newspaper including the story of two brothers who both died last night in an accident involving them running into each other, head on somewhere along Highway 30, the girlfriend of one of the brothers was killed. Needless to say, it helps to remember that it could be worse.

Written 7/18/2010

 

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Why don’t I feel worse?

Why don’t I feel worse?

Is it denial that keeps me from feeling worse about my new and not so great circumstances? About life in general? After all, my country is on the brink of war.   Global warming is reaching critical mass.  The world is full of discord.  Full of sad news.  And what of my personal life.

I’m thirty-three years old, my favorite number.  An aspiring and by all accounts, very talented singer.  One part of a gifted band of musicians all full of dreams.  The only child of a warm hearted native Oregonian with the unflinching will to prove it.  A child of one of the summers of love.  The lasting legacy of a heartfelt but short lived interracial coupling that sprung from a time full of promise and potential.   A graduate of my state college.  An unlikely homecoming queen.  Popular then and now.  Friend to many.  Enemy to only the very deserving.  A gym rat.  A guilty yuppie.  A girl with many an old boyfriend most all of whom she still calls friend.  A traveler.  French speaker.  And the latest title, cancer patient.

Cancer patient? No cure? Chronic health issue? Does not compute.  You must be kidding.

Written 1/13/2003

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Life in 2001

Teisha Helgerson

(living on SE Raymond, the muse for “You Belong to Me”)

 

“The name is Teisha Helgerson, she sings for a local group called Say Uncle, and it says here she’s going to be a star.  Knockout voice, exquisite sense of rhythm, plus a joyful presence…” Phil Stanford, Portland Tribune, August 2001

Background:  Soloist and choral experience throughout musical career with strong background in gospel, jazz, pop, R&B.

Professional experience:  During 2000 – 2001 performed with Randy Porter, Jazz Pianist; Bill Beach, Jass Pianist; Say Uncle, six piece band; Everyday Silver, four piece band.

Jazz performances:

  • Nike Corporate events in Vancouver, BC (December 2000), Seattle, WA    (April 2000), Newburg, OR (July 2000) September (2001)
  • Hayden’s Restaurant, Tualatin, OR  (January 2001)
  • River’s Restaurant SW Macadam

 

  • Say Uncle has played the following venues in the last year (2001):
  • The Bite of Portland
  • The Taste of Vancouver
  • The Taste of Beaverton
  • Ash Street Salon, SW Portland
  • Berbati’s Pan, SW Portland
  • Bitter End, W Portland
  • Buffalo Gap, SW Portland
  • Edgefield McMenamin’s, Troutdale
  • Hayden’s Grill, Tualatin
  • Kennedy School, NE Portland
  • Mt Tabor Theatre, SE Portland
  • White Eagle, NE Portland

Recordings:

  • Ringo Starr,   I wanna to be Santa Claus, Christmas 1999, back up vocal
  • Say Uncle, Self Titled Debut, Released April 28, 2001, Lead Vocals
  • Downstream Sound LLC, October 2001

Education:  University of Oregon: Bachelor of Arts, English Literature  

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Centre Pompidou, Paris

November, 2010.

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Special Showing of Teisha in Concert

“The members of Amelia hear sounds in their heads. They

wake up to voices that whisper in

their ears and rhythms that rattle through their

spines. Individually, they couldn’t tell you when they

first realized that they were soaking up this music.

Nor could they explain why the noises made by fingers

on keys and strings and wood make them feel the way

they do. They couldn’t tell you why they spend so much

time trying to get closer to the thing that makes the

most and the least sense to them.  But they would tell

you that together the four of them feel like they are

each other’s best chance of solving the puzzles they

keep scrambled on the inside.

 

Amelia sounds like a small jazz band that doesn’t play

jazz or a bossa band that doesn’t speak Portuguese.

They like to cry like Roy Orbison, brood like Tom

Waits… or persuade like Etta James… but they aren’t

pretending to be something they aren’t. They sound

like they mean it.  They feel young – but they know

they aren’t kids anymore.  They pay special attention

to the spaces between the notes, and are almost

reverential to the songs the notes create.

 

They might drive you across the desert in a

convertible or serenade you from beneath your window.

They might make you think of somebody you wish you

still talked to. They have had their hearts broken,

but they’re feeling better. Most of the time anyway.

You won’t regret letting them plant a few sounds in

your head.”

Written 7/12/02

On film the concert played for the recording of the Amelia Por Avion record.

Join us for a lovely evening to watch with friends. She’s funny and having fun at Mississippi Studios.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

7 – 9pm

Mississippi Studios

3939 N Mississippi Ave, Portland, OR 97227
(503) 288-3895

http://www.mississippistudios. com

A special blessing goes to Jim Brunberg for being the one to make this happen so easily.

Order a happy meal and refreshment from Bar Bar at 7:00pm and then settle in for the concert at 8.

I hope to see you there.

Deb, Teisha’s Mom

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